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There are groups.... and there are high-pressure
groups.
It's a good feeling to be wanted. And, it's
flattering to be asked to join a group. Now that you're in college, you'll
find yourself invited to spend your time with lots of organizations...
fraternities, sororities, intramural teams, clubs and organizations of all
kinds. Some rely on your free choice for joining while others use persistent
recruiting efforts to win you over.
Among the clubs and organizations you'll find
numerous religious, political, and social groups. Some are well organized,
and some are very informal. Choosing to belong to various groups is an
important decision in your life while you attend UCLA. We want to offer you
some information that will help you make an informed, free choice about such
groups.
At any given point in time on the campus there are
several organized and informal religious, political or social groups that
use high-pressure recruiting tactics. Listing names would be a waste of time
since the names of the groups change frequently. However, you can identify
these groups by what they do.
Why Are High Pressure Groups So Harmful?
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They tend to isolate you from family, friends and
other groups.
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They may ask you to give up control of your life,
thoughts and decisions.
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They tend to focus on guilt and shame.
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They may promote crises with school, your career
or your love life.
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They may resort to frightening you to the point
that you stop making decisions and asking questions for yourself.
When Will I Be Recruited?
College is a world with many decisions, anxieties
and pressures. There are times when you may be homesick, feel unloved or
overwhelmed, or believe you will never straighten out you life. Learning to
cope with such feelings and keeping them in proper perspective is an
opportunity college provides. Yet, is is at these times that high-pressure
religious groups tend to seek you out and begin recruiting.
How Can I Identify These High-Pressure
Groups?
Observe the group's responses to you and how you
feel. If you can answer "yes" to any three o these statements, you
should seriously reconsider your involvement.
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The group seems to be perfect. Everyone agrees
and follows all orders cheerfully.
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The group claims to have "all the
answers" to your problems.
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You are asked to recruit new members soon after
joining.
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You begin to feel guilty and ashamed, unworthy as
a person.
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The group encourages you to put their meetings
and activities before all other commitments, including studying.
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The group speaks in a derogatory way about your
past religious, social or political affiliations.
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Your parents and friends are defined as unable to
understand or help you with religious, political or other matters.
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Doubts and questions are seen as signs of weak
faith or commitment. You are shunned if you persist in these doubts.
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Leadership of the group is mostly male, and males
in general are believed to have different rights and abilities than
females.
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You are invited on a retreat with the group, but
they can't give you an overview of the purpose, theme or activities
before you go.
You Are Most Vulnerable To High-Pressure
Groups When...
You are lonely.
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You are homesick for familiar friends and
places.
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Your roommate is always out with other friends.
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You miss your significant other who is at
another school.
You are Hurting.
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Your friends forget to get you a seat at a
concert.
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You just had a phone-fight with your family.
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You are grieving over a person or relationship.
You are having a tough time socially.
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Everyone has a date for an important social
event except you.
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You haven't been recruited by anyone for
anything.
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It's the same dull routine of dinner, homework
and bed.
You are in trouble academically.
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You feel like a failure because you are failing
one or more courses.
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You are under pressure to improve your grades.
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You are embarrassed because you've never had
C's and D's in your life until now.
Remember, these feelings and reactions can be
confronted, put into proper focus and overcome. They are, however,
uncomfortable if left unattended... and they're a clear invitation to
high-pressure recruiters.
You Can Take Steps To Deal With
High-Pressure Groups.
Reach out and get the opinion of someone you trust
who is not a member of the group, such as a friend. professor, parent,
counselor, or a member of the clergy.
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Find out about new religious groups from your
church, temple, or synagogue back home.
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Don't be afraid to ask questions! Be skeptical.
Don't accept evasive answers.
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Don't be afraid to take a stand.
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Learn to say "NO".
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Examine yourself; are you vulnerable?
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Think before you go to a meeting to check it out.
Will you get a clear picture?
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Call the phone numbers on this page for help and
information.
Where Can You Get Help...
If you want to talk about groups of this sort or you
have questions you would like to ask, here are some places you can contact
on campus that will listen to you.
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